BLOG SERIES: PART TWO “HOW NOT TO ACT OLD BEFORE YOUR TIME!” .

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“Age is a question of mind over matter.  If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.”  ~Leroy  Paige

If you were born between 1940-1967, you may find yourself a little past the desire to go hang out in the local bar, but definitely not ready for the senior center or nightly bingo!   This in-between, mostly boomer group, is more active and living longer than ever.  Working, traveling, volunteering, enjoying exercise, friends, family, activities…..being engaged in life!  I see examples of this everyday with my Silver Connections members!

But, as the years creep up for all of us, there are some things that you can do (or not do) that will help you not to act old.  There is nothing wrong with growing older, it is part of life, but just make sure you don’t get there before it’s time!

The point here is not to act like a twenty-five year old, but to be someone a twenty-five year old won’t snicker at!  Or, at least be aware when you are doing something that might be a tad over the hill.

Excerpts from the book “How Not To Act Old “by Pamela Redmond Satran.

DON’T TALK ABOUT YOUR (GROWN-UP) CHILDREN

Going to parties and hearing about everyone’s children’s lives  is not always interesting conversation.  Of course, if asked, you can say what they are up to. But, going on and on about where they are living, what vacations they are taking, what careers they are involved in, details about their family life- makes it seem that they are the ones who are engaging in all the interesting things now….while you have nothing going on.  You don’t want to stand in the shadow of your child’s light or use his/her glory to enhance your own.  It is much more interesting to hear about what YOU have been up to.

NO CHRONIC HEALTH DISCUSSIONS

If you are having a health problem, of course you should tell your family and closest friends.  Yet, as health problems increase with aging, it is too easy to turn into that person trying to “one- up” on how many specialists they have seen, which symptoms they have suffered and what tests they have endured.  No one wants to hear about your hernia, colonoscopy or your heel spurs.  Can’t order ice cream because you found out recently you are lactose intolerant?  Just say “No,  Thank you” and move on.   Digestive problems have begun, just forego the jalapenos at the Mexican restaurant. No further information needed.

DON’T SAY THE DOCTOR, THE COP, OR THE TEACHER “LOOKS TWELVE”

It has become a standard joke among older adults to describe the authority figure they just encountered as looking like they are twelve.  Not eight, not sixteen, not even twenty-five, but always twelve.  Saying that your Doctor looks twelve, really says your point of reference is alarmingly way off and that you look a hundred and eight.   Now, that is definitely not funny-

So, are you acting old before your time?

And remember, if someone asks you how you are feeling, just say “It’s all good!”

Laura Kay House, MA, is the founder and owner of Silver Connections, located in the Triangle area of North Carolina. Silver Connections provides numerous socializing opportunities through events and travel, quality members and connections for age 55+, active and single adults. 

http://www.silverconnections.org

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